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20 Responses to “How do I decline a baby shower invitation?”
its quite simple.. tell them the truth.. if you want to get them a gift then get one, if you dont then dont… its always better to tell the truth and do what you want… here’s an all important sayin…
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Thank you for the invitation unfortunately I regret that I will not be able to attend due to a previous engagement. I hope you have a delightful shower.
Sincerely, X
You don’t have to get a gift but there is nothing wrong with doing so anyways. You could give it to your boss or see if you can get it to the hostess.
When you RSVP “No” let the hostess know that you have something for the bosses wife and ask when it would be convenient to drop off. That way the bosses wife will be able to open your gift along with everyone else’s the day of the party. And they will think how sweet it is that you got her such a lovely gift and will also think it is nice that you got the gift there for her even though you couldn’t be there yourself.
stupid day for a baby shower anyway!
just be polite…..explain youve got plans already (which most couples will have) and give the gift to your boss on the morning of the shower.
simple!
Just rsvp as indicated on the invitation that you can’t make it. It’s pretty silly to schedule a baby shower on Valentine’s Day, anyway. You should send a nice card to the mother-to-be or, if you want to, send a gift, but you are in no way required to. If you want to get a gift (and there are a lot of small things that are useful for new parents) I would send it to or drop it off with the hostess so the mother can get it the day of her shower.
First of all, don’t just be a no show at the event, that is in bad taste. DO call the hostess asap and express that although you’d love to attend, you already had previous plans for that date (sure you won’t be the only one, it was a poor choice on the hostess’ part) and want to express your regrets. Then ask the hostess if you drop a gift off to her house before the event. That is the classy thing to do and your boss and his wife should not think any less of you for not actually being there.
Respond back with a note explaining your plans and that you will not be able to attend. Definitely send a gift and a nice card. Thank her for having thought of you and wish her all the best.
I would still get a gift (because it’s your boss’s wife!) and it’s fine to ship it to their home. If it’s very small, bring it into the office and explain to your boss you can’t attend the shower but wanted to give them a little something. RSVP to the hostess that you cannot attend.
To decline the invitation just explain the truth of why you can not go. It is completely understandable and better than lying or something. It’s not necessary for you to get a gift. If you do, it is extra and a very kind gesture. If possible give the gift to someone else who is going to the shower to bring with them.
If you have a close relationship with your boss, then get her something small. You can even drop it off to your bosses desk and let him know that you won’t be able to make it due to having prior commitments. You don’t have to go into detail but thank him for the invitation.
If there is an RSVP number call that and let them know you can’t make it (you don’t need to tell them way) and ask how you should go about giving her your gift, but you don’t have to give them a gift if you don’t want to. You were probably only invited because of your work relationship anyways.
Don’t worry. What you can do is buy a gift and give it to your boss. Tell him you wont be able to make it because you already have plans for that day. then congratulate him and wish him the best. and he will be happy that you made an effort by getting them a gift, they really wont miss you anyway. i think only your family would if that was the case.
stay true to your family.
Its very rude to give a present to someone if you dont go to the shower/party/wedding/simular after being invited.
Its sorta like saying
“I dont wannta go its a waste of my time, but you can have some of my money to show that i dont care at all”
If you dont go and dont give a gift its like saying
“Sorry, i really want to be with my valentine today. Have fun with the baby shower”
First of all, yes, you can decline an invitation to a baby shower (or anything else for that matter). Just RSVP that you are unable to attend. You don’t have to give a reason, it is your business what you are doing when. As an adult, you don’t have to give people excuses.
Regarding the gift, that is optional. If you do purchase one, it would probably be easiest to just give it to your boss. I personally wouldn’t send one. Shower invitations usually go out to the parents to be’s family and close friends. Including your husbands co-workers on your invitation list seems pretty tacky to me.
September 21st, 2009 at 5:02 pm
Miriam Merrell
You CAN get her a gift if you want/ you can give it to your boss or have it delivered to the house.
I would say I have a prior commitment for that date.
September 24th, 2009 at 9:58 am
Linda Haught
its quite simple.. tell them the truth.. if you want to get them a gift then get one, if you dont then dont… its always better to tell the truth and do what you want… here’s an all important sayin…
say a positive no instead of a negative yes
September 24th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
Melody Rosenblum
call the rsvp line and say im sorry but i have plans, itll be fine
its up to you on sending a gift, im sure you send it to the address listed on her registry, but if you dont and you dont go she’s none the wiser
September 26th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Julio Pecora
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Thank you for the invitation unfortunately I regret that I will not be able to attend due to a previous engagement. I hope you have a delightful shower.
Sincerely, X
You don’t have to get a gift but there is nothing wrong with doing so anyways. You could give it to your boss or see if you can get it to the hostess.
September 27th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Jesse Aviles
Yes, you should still get her a gift.
When you RSVP “No” let the hostess know that you have something for the bosses wife and ask when it would be convenient to drop off. That way the bosses wife will be able to open your gift along with everyone else’s the day of the party. And they will think how sweet it is that you got her such a lovely gift and will also think it is nice that you got the gift there for her even though you couldn’t be there yourself.
Enjoy your Valentine’s date!
September 30th, 2009 at 1:48 am
Ronald Poteat
stupid day for a baby shower anyway!
just be polite…..explain youve got plans already (which most couples will have) and give the gift to your boss on the morning of the shower.
simple!
October 2nd, 2009 at 1:09 am
Victor Joslin
Just rsvp as indicated on the invitation that you can’t make it. It’s pretty silly to schedule a baby shower on Valentine’s Day, anyway. You should send a nice card to the mother-to-be or, if you want to, send a gift, but you are in no way required to. If you want to get a gift (and there are a lot of small things that are useful for new parents) I would send it to or drop it off with the hostess so the mother can get it the day of her shower.
October 2nd, 2009 at 12:55 pm
Allen Aitken
First of all, don’t just be a no show at the event, that is in bad taste. DO call the hostess asap and express that although you’d love to attend, you already had previous plans for that date (sure you won’t be the only one, it was a poor choice on the hostess’ part) and want to express your regrets. Then ask the hostess if you drop a gift off to her house before the event. That is the classy thing to do and your boss and his wife should not think any less of you for not actually being there.
October 2nd, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Douglas Markham
tell them the truth. The truth hurts, but lies much worse.
Quoted from James Morrison’s wonderful song “Broken Strings”.
Thanks xxxxx
October 4th, 2009 at 6:51 am
Keith Gee
give her a gift, tell her that you had prior obligations
October 4th, 2009 at 2:47 pm
Mathew Saulsbury
Respond back with a note explaining your plans and that you will not be able to attend. Definitely send a gift and a nice card. Thank her for having thought of you and wish her all the best.
October 4th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Brandon Lombardi
I would still get a gift (because it’s your boss’s wife!) and it’s fine to ship it to their home. If it’s very small, bring it into the office and explain to your boss you can’t attend the shower but wanted to give them a little something. RSVP to the hostess that you cannot attend.
October 6th, 2009 at 6:39 am
Glenn Fowlkes
If you wish to give her a gift do so—but a Valentine’s Day shower is going to have a poor showing.
A polite note stating that you already had other plans is not only appropriate, but factual.
Good luck.
October 7th, 2009 at 4:36 pm
Henry Corder
To decline the invitation just explain the truth of why you can not go. It is completely understandable and better than lying or something. It’s not necessary for you to get a gift. If you do, it is extra and a very kind gesture. If possible give the gift to someone else who is going to the shower to bring with them.
October 10th, 2009 at 12:55 am
Katrina Leahy
you can pass on gift through a friend.with short note that important guests are expected after wards you can escape they did not turn up
October 12th, 2009 at 6:21 am
Sheryl Mier
If you have a close relationship with your boss, then get her something small. You can even drop it off to your bosses desk and let him know that you won’t be able to make it due to having prior commitments. You don’t have to go into detail but thank him for the invitation.
October 13th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
Edward Newberry
If there is an RSVP number call that and let them know you can’t make it (you don’t need to tell them way) and ask how you should go about giving her your gift, but you don’t have to give them a gift if you don’t want to. You were probably only invited because of your work relationship anyways.
October 16th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
Josephson
Don’t worry. What you can do is buy a gift and give it to your boss. Tell him you wont be able to make it because you already have plans for that day. then congratulate him and wish him the best. and he will be happy that you made an effort by getting them a gift, they really wont miss you anyway. i think only your family would if that was the case.
stay true to your family.
October 20th, 2009 at 4:44 am
Fernando Demelo
Its very rude to give a present to someone if you dont go to the shower/party/wedding/simular after being invited.
Its sorta like saying
“I dont wannta go its a waste of my time, but you can have some of my money to show that i dont care at all”
If you dont go and dont give a gift its like saying
“Sorry, i really want to be with my valentine today. Have fun with the baby shower”
October 20th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Regina Gormley
First of all, yes, you can decline an invitation to a baby shower (or anything else for that matter). Just RSVP that you are unable to attend. You don’t have to give a reason, it is your business what you are doing when. As an adult, you don’t have to give people excuses.
Regarding the gift, that is optional. If you do purchase one, it would probably be easiest to just give it to your boss. I personally wouldn’t send one. Shower invitations usually go out to the parents to be’s family and close friends. Including your husbands co-workers on your invitation list seems pretty tacky to me.